Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Chew over these

Of late I have been collecting quotes and noting them down in my diary, and I have a pretty fine collection now. I have taken the quotes from newspapers, magazines, comic strips, books, posters, and even some from fictional novels. When I come across a statement which makes so much sense to me, I jot is down. I am very impressed by the huge meaning and implications that the small lines can hold. A lot of times, a single line – a small set of words triggers a whole new thought process, and at other times they are things I already know and believe in and stand by, but I love the manner in which they have been expressed. Here I have posted some of those that I liked most.

“There’s no problem so big that it can’t be run away from”

“The best way to avoid responsibility is to say, “I’ve got responsibilities”

“Sometimes when almost everything is going wrong, one thing is so right; you would do it all over again”

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear”

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen”

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort”

“A million women rose to their feet with the cry ‘we will not be dictated to’ and promptly became stenographers”

“There’s no one way to dance. And that is kind of my philosophy about everything”

“If you reveal your secrets to the wind; you should not blame the wind for revealing it to the trees”

“Parents wonder why the streams are bitter when they themselves have poisoned the fountain”

“Experience: That most brutal of all teachers. But you learn, my God you do learn”

“We are loved for not we are, but what we are fancied to be”

“It’s all right letting yourself go, as long as you can get yourself back”

“Life has a way of reinforcing all your worst assessments of yourself”


Here’s a paragraph from a book I recently read. I firmly agree with this:
“You can understand and relate to most people better if you look at them – no matter how impressive they may be – as if they are children. For most of us never really grow up or mature all that much – we simply grow taller. Oh, to be sure we laugh less and play less and wear uncomfortable disguises like adults; but beneath the costume is the child we always are, whose needs are simple, whose daily life is still best described by fairy tales”

Ponder over these. They make a lot of sense.

Regards,

Devil’s own

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

ALONE

From childhood’s hour I have not been
As others were – I have not seen
As others saw – I could not bring
My passions from a common spring –
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow – I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone –
And all I lov’d – I lov’d alone
-Edgar Allan Poe

(Un)Holy Matrimony

An ad in the matrimonial section of the Sunday newspaper:
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Engr. Dr. Parents seek alliance for daughter 30/158, fair, Mgmt, PG, XLRI, MNC, Mumbai, 15 lacs p.a.
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I do not understand why they mentioned the girl’s salary in the ad. No doubt, her pay is definitely impressive, but aren’t they putting it their as a bait to lure people? Wouldn’t people with the wrong intentions approach them? How can the girl’s parents be sure that the guys who respond and the guy they choose did not just decide to approach them because the girl earns good money? What if they choose the wrong person? Would they have got as many responses as they would have through this ad had they not mentioned the salary? As important as doing the right thing is doing it for the right reasons. Marriage one of the most important decisions of anyone’s life no matter what kind of a person he or she is or how ambitious, career minded, or home loving anyone is. The foundation of marriage itself cannot be affirmed here. Would the girl get respect from her spouse if she loses her job or stops working and does not earn as much? Maybe she would, but isn’t it better to be sure?

I strongly believe that marriage is a very important and a very crucial decision and so is who and why you marry. People say they don’t have time to pay attention to anything except their career/ ambition/ achieving a certain goal. That it is not important who they marry. Wouldn’t they be working while staying married all their life? Wouldn’t marriage and career be two aspects of your life? Then why not do justice to the decision and pay the attention it requires? The most important thing is that the two people getting married are compatible and love each other. If the parents make the match, then at least like and respect each other.

Money is the worst possible reason to get married. Maybe initially the marriage feels like a bed of roses, but some years down the lane the money would mean nothing at all. Yes, it is important that you have sufficient money, but you will be happier with a decent life and a spouse who loves you and you love instead of a luxurious life and a lifeless relationship with the spouse.

Regards,

Devil’s own

Give me Strength

What do you count on when everything in your life is going wrong? Why should you hope when intelligence tells you that it is not going to happen? Where does hope come from? Why do you keep telling yourself everything will work out fine when you don’t even recall the last time things were going right? Why do you depend so much on someone that your life seems worthless without your person? Why do you ask questions whose answers you are afraid of and then break into tears every time you realize that the answers haven’t changed? Why are you afraid of death? And why is death called the easy way out? If death is so easy why is everyone so scared of dying? Why should someone not be allowed to choose whether he wants to live or die? Where is my guardian angel? What will give you happiness when your family, your career, your health and your relationships don’t? Why can’t you turn back time? Why are the things you want the most get out of your reach? Help me God, give me wisdom, and give me strength.
Regards,
Devil's Own