An ad in the matrimonial section of the Sunday newspaper:
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Engr. Dr. Parents seek alliance for daughter 30/158, fair, Mgmt, PG, XLRI, MNC, Mumbai, 15 lacs p.a.
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I do not understand why they mentioned the girl’s salary in the ad. No doubt, her pay is definitely impressive, but aren’t they putting it their as a bait to lure people? Wouldn’t people with the wrong intentions approach them? How can the girl’s parents be sure that the guys who respond and the guy they choose did not just decide to approach them because the girl earns good money? What if they choose the wrong person? Would they have got as many responses as they would have through this ad had they not mentioned the salary? As important as doing the right thing is doing it for the right reasons. Marriage one of the most important decisions of anyone’s life no matter what kind of a person he or she is or how ambitious, career minded, or home loving anyone is. The foundation of marriage itself cannot be affirmed here. Would the girl get respect from her spouse if she loses her job or stops working and does not earn as much? Maybe she would, but isn’t it better to be sure?
I strongly believe that marriage is a very important and a very crucial decision and so is who and why you marry. People say they don’t have time to pay attention to anything except their career/ ambition/ achieving a certain goal. That it is not important who they marry. Wouldn’t they be working while staying married all their life? Wouldn’t marriage and career be two aspects of your life? Then why not do justice to the decision and pay the attention it requires? The most important thing is that the two people getting married are compatible and love each other. If the parents make the match, then at least like and respect each other.
Money is the worst possible reason to get married. Maybe initially the marriage feels like a bed of roses, but some years down the lane the money would mean nothing at all. Yes, it is important that you have sufficient money, but you will be happier with a decent life and a spouse who loves you and you love instead of a luxurious life and a lifeless relationship with the spouse.
Regards,
Devil’s own
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Engr. Dr. Parents seek alliance for daughter 30/158, fair, Mgmt, PG, XLRI, MNC, Mumbai, 15 lacs p.a.
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I do not understand why they mentioned the girl’s salary in the ad. No doubt, her pay is definitely impressive, but aren’t they putting it their as a bait to lure people? Wouldn’t people with the wrong intentions approach them? How can the girl’s parents be sure that the guys who respond and the guy they choose did not just decide to approach them because the girl earns good money? What if they choose the wrong person? Would they have got as many responses as they would have through this ad had they not mentioned the salary? As important as doing the right thing is doing it for the right reasons. Marriage one of the most important decisions of anyone’s life no matter what kind of a person he or she is or how ambitious, career minded, or home loving anyone is. The foundation of marriage itself cannot be affirmed here. Would the girl get respect from her spouse if she loses her job or stops working and does not earn as much? Maybe she would, but isn’t it better to be sure?
I strongly believe that marriage is a very important and a very crucial decision and so is who and why you marry. People say they don’t have time to pay attention to anything except their career/ ambition/ achieving a certain goal. That it is not important who they marry. Wouldn’t they be working while staying married all their life? Wouldn’t marriage and career be two aspects of your life? Then why not do justice to the decision and pay the attention it requires? The most important thing is that the two people getting married are compatible and love each other. If the parents make the match, then at least like and respect each other.
Money is the worst possible reason to get married. Maybe initially the marriage feels like a bed of roses, but some years down the lane the money would mean nothing at all. Yes, it is important that you have sufficient money, but you will be happier with a decent life and a spouse who loves you and you love instead of a luxurious life and a lifeless relationship with the spouse.
Regards,
Devil’s own
4 comments:
The salary of the girl was mentioned so as to make sure that only guys who have salaries that are more than that of the girl send in their profiles. It's obvious, don't you think, that the girl's parents wouldn't want their daughter to wed a guy who earns less than she does. (and neither would the girl).
As for the 'wrong' type of people applying, well, that's a risk they'd have to take either way.
i think mentioning the salary is kinda bad, and when will girls themselves stand up and actually be "independent".....
Pretty much what aknowkneemoose said, altho' I wouldn't mind if the gal earned more and I sat at home :p ... Hey, its a fair world out there... Equal opportunity and all that. But generally I'd think that background checks are done, even if you find the persons ad online, you do your history check offline.
That advt is sure a lure-- a message also to tell the world that earning big bucks is no more a male's domain, My three cheers for the women and their power to rise up to challenges.
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